X2go
X2GO FINAL SOLUTION
INSTALL
su - # set cisco proxy to get ppa going, then: add-apt-repository ppa:x2go/stable ctrl-D sudo apt update && sudo apt install x2goserver x2goserver-xsession
get the windows client and install: http://wiki.x2go.org/doku.php/doc:installation:x2goclient fuckme, looks like another entire linux distro in a windows app, ala early git-for-windows. you suck.
SERVER SETTINGS
X2go > Options > settings > X.Org Server settings > (o) use custom X-server once you check this, exe is populated for you, but it is WRONG and you won't be able to fix later? use this! exe: C:/Program Files (x86)/x2goclient/VcXsrv/vcxsrv.exe [x] start x-server on x2go client start command line options: -rootless -clipboard -keyhook -screen 0 1920x1080@2
CLIENT (session) settings
path: / host: 10.122.81.233 login: m ssh port:22 (was set by default) (defaults) session type: custom desktop Command: i3 < THIS WORKS whoohoo! --- Input/Output (o) Use whole display Display 2 < THIS GETS MONITOR 2 GOING PERFECTLY, we can mess with multimonitor more later